David Wayne Beverley 17
David means: Beloved
Date of Birth: December 5, 1992
David means: Beloved
Date of Birth: December 5, 1992
David is my first born, my first teenager and my first and only difficult labor. I was 23 when I had David , and I must admit I had no idea what I had gotten myself into. Here is David's birth story I hope you enjoy it.
First David was supposed to be a November baby. He was due around Thanksgiving, so as you can see he was late. I believe I was going on 42 weeks and I was so miserable. I would go on rides down bumpy roads, long walks you name it. Around 40 weeks or so they did something called "stripping the membranes", I don't even know if they do it anymore, but I will tell you I will never allow someone to do that to me again. They used a tool and speculum and went in a separated the membranes from the uterus, I guess to stimulate labor. A few days later I thought I might be leaking fluid, but I didn't know for sure. Then on December 4, 1992 I was taking a nap, I woke around dinner time with a horrible back ache. It would come and go and the pain was getting worse each time. I pulled out my handy dandy "What to Expect When You are Expecting" Book and realized, this could be labor.
I called Labor and Delivery and they told me to go for a walk, because if I came in and was less then 2 cm dilated they would send me home. My husband decided, lets go for a walk and look at the Christmas lights that are up. So walk we did, I didn't make it very far because the contractions were getting worse and now radiating to my abdomen so we headed home, called my mom and went to the hospital.
After I was admitted (no they did not send me, thank goodness) they did an Ultrasound to check the size and date of the baby. The kicker is, we did not have insurance then, so I was a "clinic" patient, they had a student do my ultrasound nice a slow while I was having contractions. Come to find out, baby had a large head for delivery and they were concerned that I would not be able to deliver vaginally. Wow, you think, I was two weeks overdue!
Labor progressed with some painful contractions. I decided to have the epidural, they placed a needle like catheter in my back that provided the medication. They placed it between contractions. The medication worked very quickly and soon I was numb from the waste down. The nurse would tell my husband and I to get some rest and stop joking around all night because I was going to need my energy. We did not listen, I was feeling great!
Then I made the mistake, when they did a cervix check I was about 6cm, close to the cut off for additional pain medication. After 7cm they usually won't give it to you because your at your final stages of labor. The nurse said are you having any pain? My answer, just some pressure, but not pain. Would you like more medication through you epidural? My answer, sure! I should of never have done that. I went to full dilation quickly and they told me I needed to start pushing when I had a contraction. What contractions? I didn't feel them at all! I had to watch the monitor and when I saw a peak I had to push. I was so numb I didn't know how to push. I couldn't feel to push. It took four hours for me to push David out, they had to use forceps to grab him finally.
He came out wide eyed and it was so cute! We didn't know what I was having so we were surprised to find out we had a baby boy! David looked all around the room his eyes were so big and he didn't cry, he just made the cutest "o" shape with his mouth and looked everywhere. They took him from me to clean him up, and then he had to go to NICU. Yes my 7 lb 14oz baby had to go to NICU because I had a low grade fever when I arrived at the hospital. I had IV antibiotics, so he had to remain on IV antibiotics for three days. You think that had to do with "stripping the membranes and leaving me pregnant up to 42 weeks"?
Well due to the horrible time I had pushing David out I had a lot of bleeding and I had internal and external tears along with my episiotomy. It took them a bit to sew me up, by tears were third and fourth degree tears. I was in so much pain from that. They did give me percocet, and that was great, but they would ring me on the phone when David wanted to nurse so I could come to NICU. I had to walk to NICU leaning on the hospital wall because I was drugged from the percocet.
I did go home with David, they allowed me the additional day that he needed to stay that I didn't to sleep in a room they were not using with supplies in it. No phone, t.v. or nurse available to me, but I could stay at the hospital.
One funny thing, we had no insurance like I said earlier, so the hospital charged us a flat $900 hospital fee that had to be paid at discharge. I did not have the money, so my mother paid to get us out of the hospital. Is that hysterical, I remember them saying "In order to be discharged you must pay this $900 hospital bill". What were they going to do, hold us hostage, keep my baby...LOL too funny.
David's birth experience was difficult, but still a miracle. There were was so much in hind site that could have been done differently. I should have never had that second dose of medication, I needed to feel something in order to know what to do. I think if I had a doula or mid wife I would have mad it through much better then I did. I have learned through experience now that the pain of labor and the sensations our body has is natural and normal and by letting our body do what it needs to do, labor will progress quicker, birth will go smoother and mom will feel so much better afterwards. Now let me make a statement.....If you need medication then you take medication, that does not make you a failure or anything. Just let your body guide you to what is right for you. Just don't let the hospital over medicate, take the edge off, but feel your baby being born.
To my friends who will have C-Sections, don't ever feel that you did no experience birth, You did! You had the birth experience that was right for you. Thank God we have the medical knowledge to do successful C-Sections or there are a lot of mommies who would not have their babies today.
Well next week is Michael...good story you will like it. So much different then David. Thanks for reading, let me know if you have any questions.
P.S. I gained 60 lbs with David, you heard me 60!!!!
First David was supposed to be a November baby. He was due around Thanksgiving, so as you can see he was late. I believe I was going on 42 weeks and I was so miserable. I would go on rides down bumpy roads, long walks you name it. Around 40 weeks or so they did something called "stripping the membranes", I don't even know if they do it anymore, but I will tell you I will never allow someone to do that to me again. They used a tool and speculum and went in a separated the membranes from the uterus, I guess to stimulate labor. A few days later I thought I might be leaking fluid, but I didn't know for sure. Then on December 4, 1992 I was taking a nap, I woke around dinner time with a horrible back ache. It would come and go and the pain was getting worse each time. I pulled out my handy dandy "What to Expect When You are Expecting" Book and realized, this could be labor.
I called Labor and Delivery and they told me to go for a walk, because if I came in and was less then 2 cm dilated they would send me home. My husband decided, lets go for a walk and look at the Christmas lights that are up. So walk we did, I didn't make it very far because the contractions were getting worse and now radiating to my abdomen so we headed home, called my mom and went to the hospital.
After I was admitted (no they did not send me, thank goodness) they did an Ultrasound to check the size and date of the baby. The kicker is, we did not have insurance then, so I was a "clinic" patient, they had a student do my ultrasound nice a slow while I was having contractions. Come to find out, baby had a large head for delivery and they were concerned that I would not be able to deliver vaginally. Wow, you think, I was two weeks overdue!
Labor progressed with some painful contractions. I decided to have the epidural, they placed a needle like catheter in my back that provided the medication. They placed it between contractions. The medication worked very quickly and soon I was numb from the waste down. The nurse would tell my husband and I to get some rest and stop joking around all night because I was going to need my energy. We did not listen, I was feeling great!
Then I made the mistake, when they did a cervix check I was about 6cm, close to the cut off for additional pain medication. After 7cm they usually won't give it to you because your at your final stages of labor. The nurse said are you having any pain? My answer, just some pressure, but not pain. Would you like more medication through you epidural? My answer, sure! I should of never have done that. I went to full dilation quickly and they told me I needed to start pushing when I had a contraction. What contractions? I didn't feel them at all! I had to watch the monitor and when I saw a peak I had to push. I was so numb I didn't know how to push. I couldn't feel to push. It took four hours for me to push David out, they had to use forceps to grab him finally.
He came out wide eyed and it was so cute! We didn't know what I was having so we were surprised to find out we had a baby boy! David looked all around the room his eyes were so big and he didn't cry, he just made the cutest "o" shape with his mouth and looked everywhere. They took him from me to clean him up, and then he had to go to NICU. Yes my 7 lb 14oz baby had to go to NICU because I had a low grade fever when I arrived at the hospital. I had IV antibiotics, so he had to remain on IV antibiotics for three days. You think that had to do with "stripping the membranes and leaving me pregnant up to 42 weeks"?
Well due to the horrible time I had pushing David out I had a lot of bleeding and I had internal and external tears along with my episiotomy. It took them a bit to sew me up, by tears were third and fourth degree tears. I was in so much pain from that. They did give me percocet, and that was great, but they would ring me on the phone when David wanted to nurse so I could come to NICU. I had to walk to NICU leaning on the hospital wall because I was drugged from the percocet.
I did go home with David, they allowed me the additional day that he needed to stay that I didn't to sleep in a room they were not using with supplies in it. No phone, t.v. or nurse available to me, but I could stay at the hospital.
One funny thing, we had no insurance like I said earlier, so the hospital charged us a flat $900 hospital fee that had to be paid at discharge. I did not have the money, so my mother paid to get us out of the hospital. Is that hysterical, I remember them saying "In order to be discharged you must pay this $900 hospital bill". What were they going to do, hold us hostage, keep my baby...LOL too funny.
David's birth experience was difficult, but still a miracle. There were was so much in hind site that could have been done differently. I should have never had that second dose of medication, I needed to feel something in order to know what to do. I think if I had a doula or mid wife I would have mad it through much better then I did. I have learned through experience now that the pain of labor and the sensations our body has is natural and normal and by letting our body do what it needs to do, labor will progress quicker, birth will go smoother and mom will feel so much better afterwards. Now let me make a statement.....If you need medication then you take medication, that does not make you a failure or anything. Just let your body guide you to what is right for you. Just don't let the hospital over medicate, take the edge off, but feel your baby being born.
To my friends who will have C-Sections, don't ever feel that you did no experience birth, You did! You had the birth experience that was right for you. Thank God we have the medical knowledge to do successful C-Sections or there are a lot of mommies who would not have their babies today.
Well next week is Michael...good story you will like it. So much different then David. Thanks for reading, let me know if you have any questions.
P.S. I gained 60 lbs with David, you heard me 60!!!!
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